In 2009, I experienced what novelists call a “dark night of the soul.” I had just gotten married, and struggled with my new adult identity and the loss of my maiden name. In the space of six months, three loved ones passed away, including my beloved grandmother. I was frustrated at work and knew I […]
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My Cancer Story
Thank you all for your wonderful responses to Monday’s cancer story series kick-off post, Cancer-Free…But Maybe Not. My biopsy is scheduled for next Monday, and it’ll be up to a week afterward before I hear the results. Several people have asked me how I’m coping with the wait. The answer is: I feel perfectly fine […]
Make A FUN Resolution
I read a statistic recently that over half of all Americans do not make New Year’s resolutions. Putting aside the arguments that “they don’t work” (they do for some people) and “they haven’t worked for me in the past” (maybe you need to make them more specific or manageable) and “they’re stupid” (you’re entitled to […]
Sometimes It’s Good To Complain
American psychology pushes us to be positive. We’re supposed to think positively, act with good intentions, and have gratitude for everything in our lives. But something that often gets missed in the psychobabble is the value of complaining. True, few people enjoy hearing others complain, particularly when haranguing for long stretches of time on one […]
What No One Tells You About Being Pregnant
I’ve learned a lot of things in the last nine months, from books, friends and experiences. I’ve concluded that women need those nine months just as much as their babies do, for emotional development and education about babies and motherhood. When I got pregnant, I thought I was ready for a child, but I really […]