It was a relaxed weekend for me and the kids. My husband was out of town at a music conference, so the kids and I stayed part of the weekend at my parents’ house. It’s only a couple of miles away, but we thought it would be a fun change of pace, so I packed up five bags and the portable crib. We didn’t do much– mostly just hung around the house– but the relaxation was made more special by the holiday season. A weekend that might have been boring in January seemed to sparkle in December.
I’ve struggled with the holiday season over the past few years. Instead of renewing my spirit, it drained me of energy; instead of connecting me with my family, it felt as though I was chained to a to-do list. That’s changed this year, partly because I finally figured out what I actually value about the holiday. It’s not about going out and doing things (although we do some of that). It’s not about crossing off all the Christmas movies on my list (as I did a few years ago). It’s about setting up the environment– lights, candles, tree, music– and letting those small changes boost my spirits daily.
At my parents’ house this weekend, hanging around in the evening felt extra-comforting and cozy because we could admire the beautifully-decorated tree and mantle display. I ate a leftover piece of pie from Thanksgiving and felt festive. My parents did a Christmas scavenger hunt for the kids with simple clues and chocolate stashed around the house. It only took five minutes, but it felt special.
As the season ramps up further– only 10 more school days until break starts!– I’m going to focus on those daily holiday joys. The kids opening up our Advent calendar every morning (our “elf” hides treats and messages inside each wooden drawer). Looking for holiday light displays as we drive at night. Enjoying a Christmas cookie before bed. Holding a warm cup of coffee or tea as I gaze at the tree. Michael Buble, and Muppet Christmas Carol, and Bing Crosby singing with Danny Kaye.
The to-do list is still long, but somehow, it doesn’t seem so burdensome this weekend.
